He Said… “Great question Timothy. A first date is tricky because there are so many things running through your mind. Will he/she like me? How should I act? What should/shouldn’t I say? We have enough pressure on us during the date so you don’t want any added pressure “about” the date. Keep it casual! That’s my first rule in my date coaching classes. Don’t try to bankrupt yourself by spending an exuberant amount of cash in an attempt to impress a woman. Besides, women are smart and they will see right through your attempt. Many people are so worried about the second date that they try to over impress on the 1st. If you like the person, you should set yourself up for the 30th date. The easiest way to do that is to be yourself. With that said, go somewhere where you can talk and get to know each other. Find out if you have the common ground necessary to even move on to another date. The movies or a local casino don’t give you the option to do that. A nice casual dinner, an afternoon or evening at the beach or even a local amusement park allow you to still have a good time and yet gives you the opportunity to get to know your date and set yourself up for several more dates down the road. “
She Said… “Instead of doing the usual dinner date or movie, why not try something fun. Bowling, a cooking class, taking a walk, or miniature golf are just a few ideas that would make a great first date. They are more casual and open-ended which can give you more time or an easier out. A more casual outing also gives each of you a look at the various sides of your personalities, and if there is no romantic chemistry, you’re more likely to part as friends. You never know who your date might know or when you will run into them again, and at the very least you can say you had fun.”
~ Contributed by Rocky Osborn and Kim May for He Said She Said Matchmaking Services. To submit your question, simply e-mail Kim and Rocky at email@example.com.